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Nicholas Kusmich

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The Goal Isn’t to Think Better. It’s to Think Less

Hey friend, Let’s say the quiet part out loud: Most people aren’t thinking.They’re looping. Replaying the same mental Spotify playlist: doubt, planning, regret, fear, self-criticism… with an occasional remix of “Why am I like this?” And what’s the popular advice? “Fix your thoughts.”“Reframe your thinking.”“Upgrade your mindset.” But what if the real issue isn’t your mindset?What if the real issue is your mind’s grip on your identity? Here’s something to think about: You don’t need better...

Hey friend, Let’s talk about that “stillness” you’ve been cultivating. The one where nothing fazes you.You observe everything.You respond to nothing.You’ve become a monk… in traffic. But underneath the surface?You’re not present.You’re disconnected. You’ve mistaken detachment for awareness.You’ve confused emotional numbness for spiritual mastery. And mindfulness?It’s become a mask. When Stillness Is Actually Shutdown Let’s be clear: Mindfulness isn’t the problem.How you’re using it might be....

Hey friend, Here’s the kind of mic-drop truth that ends entire identity crises: If you can observe it…you’re not it. You’re not your anger.You’re not your doubt.You’re not your thoughts, your roles, your beliefs, your emotions, or your Instagram bio. If you can see it, it’s not you. Because the one who’s watching the storm…is never the storm itself. The Greatest Misunderstanding in Personal Development The self-help world loves to obsess over mindset: “Upgrade your thoughts.” “Rewire your...

Hey friend, Let’s be honest: You don’t “struggle with procrastination.”You’re not lazy.You’re not disorganized.You don’t “just need a better system.” You’re a perfectionist.In disguise. And procrastination?That’s how your nervous system delays the shame of not getting it exactly right. This isn’t about time management.It’s about emotional protection. Because nothing protects you from failure like never starting. (Yep, I just called it out :) ) The Hidden Fear Behind “I’ll Do It Later” Here’s...

Hey friend, Most people are stuck in an invisible war. They wake up and go into battle, against their own mind. They try to think positive.Reframe negative thoughts.Affirm their greatness.Raise their frequency.Journal their way into mental sainthood. And yet… They’re still anxious.Still overthinking.Still stuck. Why? Because the entire project is based on a lie: That you are the thinker of your thoughts. The Self-Help Lie You’ve Been Sold Let’s be blunt. The self-help world has made billions...

Hey friend, Let’s cut through the fluff: That person didn’t trigger you. They exposed you. They didn’t insert anger, insecurity, or shame into your body like some kind of emotional syringe.They just happened to poke the exact spot where your unprocessed stuff was already living. Congratulations—you weren’t attacked.You were revealed. And that’s not a problem.That’s a portal. The Myth of “They Made Me Feel This Way” We love to blame. “He made me feel small.” “She made me feel dismissed.” “They...

Hey Friend, Let’s talk about your “overwhelm.” You know, that thing you claim is ruining your week? The back-to-back meetings.The never-ending to-do list.The 74 open browser tabs (36 of which you swear are important). But here’s the uncomfortable truth: You’re not overwhelmed because there’s too much to do.You’re overwhelmed because you’re too afraid to disappoint people. Read that again. Overwhelm is Often Just Avoided Boundaries Every time you say “yes” when you mean “hell no,” every time...

Hey Friend, If I had a dollar for every time someone said, “I just need more motivation…” I’d buy a yacht, name it Discipline Is a Scam, and sail it into the ocean of unmet expectations. Because here’s the truth:You don’t need more motivation.You need to stop being at war with reality. Because what really drains your energy isn’t the work.It’s the resistance to what is. That emotional pushback that sounds like: “This shouldn’t be happening.” “I should be further ahead.” “I don’t feel like...

Hey Friend, Understanding “Oneness” (or what many in ancient traditions call “Awareness”) is the most important thing in living free.But let’s dismantle a delusion: Awareness isn’t here to fix you.It’s not a self-improvement tool.It’s not a spiritual productivity hack.And it’s definitely not going to help you “manifest” a G-Wagon in 30 days. Awareness doesn’t fix.It frees. It doesn’t upgrade your personality.It undoes your false one. And if you’re trying to use awareness to “become a better...

Hey friend, Let’s get brutally honest: You don’t want to scroll for hours, eat crap, ghost your coach, binge Netflix, sabotage your progress, or buy things you’ll forget about in three days. But you do it anyway.Why? Because you’re not weak.You’re not broken.You’re not even addicted in the way you’ve been taught to believe. You’re dysregulated.And your system is just reaching for something - anything - that brings you back to a feeling of “okay-ness.” Even if it only lasts 6 minutes....