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Hey friend,

Let’s say the quiet part out loud:

Most people aren’t thinking.
They’re looping.

Replaying the same mental Spotify playlist: doubt, planning, regret, fear, self-criticism… with an occasional remix of “Why am I like this?”

And what’s the popular advice?

“Fix your thoughts.”
“Reframe your thinking.”
“Upgrade your mindset.”

But what if the real issue isn’t your mindset?
What if the real issue is your mind’s grip on your identity?

Here’s something to think about:

You don’t need better thoughts.
You need fewer of them.

Thought Isn’t the Enemy - Overidentification Is

Your thoughts aren’t evil.
They’re not trying to sabotage you.
They’re just doing what minds do: produce content.

But the problem arises when you start believing all of it.
Attaching meaning to every passing narrative.
Taking every passing sensation as personal.

“That email didn’t get a reply. I must’ve said something wrong.”
“I’m feeling off today. Something’s probably broken inside me.”
“They didn’t smile at me. I must be too much.”

That’s not insight.
That’s overidentification.

You’re not in danger.
You’re just caught in the noise.

The Brain’s Job Is to Think - Yours Is to Notice

The brain is a pattern generator.

Thoughts arise not because they’re true,
but because they’re familiar.

And familiar = safe (to your nervous system, anyway).

So your brain will keep generating the same loops unless you interrupt the illusion that you're the one thinking them on purpose.

And that’s the real trap:

Trying to fix the mind from within the mind.
That’s like trying to clean a window with a dirty rag.

You end up smearing the same beliefs around…
but now they sparkle.

Enter: The Space Between Thoughts

There’s a place you may have only briefly tasted:

• When you’re deep in meditation and everything goes quiet
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• When you’re in awe of something beautiful and forget your name for a second
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• When laughter is so loud it drowns out the self

That space?

That’s you.

Not the “you” who overthinks.
Not the “you” who calculates.
Not the “you” who writes the pros and cons list for the pros and cons list.

The YOU before thought.

The one who sees.
The one who knows.
The one who just is.

The “Mental Mute Button” Practice

This is one of my simplest (and most effective) awareness drops:

1. Pause right now.
   ​ Literally stop reading after this step and notice your next thought.
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2. Ask silently:
   ​ “I wonder what my next thought will be?”
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3. Wait. Watch.

Something strange happens.
Your mind slows.
You enter the gap.
The thought stream pauses—because you’ve exited the current.

That gap?
That’s your access point.

Not to “better” thoughts.
But to awareness beyond them.

Final Thought

The point isn’t to think better thoughts.
The point is to stop confusing yourself with thought.

You don’t need to become a mental gymnast.
You don’t need to fix your thinking every five minutes.
You don’t need to “figure it all out.”

You just need enough stillness to remember what you are.

Which, ironically, happens the moment you stop trying to think your way there.

Silence isn’t absence.
It’s presence.

And it’s always available.

Right now.
Between thoughts.
Beneath identity.
Before the next loop begins.

Nic

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