REWired What if everything you knew about self-help and personal development was not only wrong but was the very thing keeping you stuck? REWired reveals the keys at the cross-section of ancient wisdom and modern neuroscience that bring about easy and permanent transformation.
When Motivation is Just a Mask for Fear
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Hey friend, Most high performers believe they’re driven by purpose. But often, what looks like motivation is just well-dressed fear. You wake up early. And everyone applauds your “discipline.” A quiet voice whispering: “If I slow down, it’ll all fall apart.” The truth is, what most people call motivation is just anxiety with better PR. Driven people often confuse tension for focus. It looks like:
This isn’t purpose. This is performance anxiety dressed up as purpose. The Neuroscience:When your nervous system is dysregulated, the Default Mode Network spins harder. It tries to simulate every possible future threat and solve it in advance. Addictive productivity = the brain’s attempt to stay safe by staying busy. Chronic busyness = chronic prediction error. The system never lands. It never rests because it’s not operating from coherence it’s reacting to threat. The Flip:What you think is drive might actually be dysregulation. You’re not “so motivated.” You’re just afraid of what happens when things get quiet. Because when it’s quiet… The parts of you that still feel unworthy start to whisper. And you’d rather drown that out with more “work.” This is why your hustle doesn’t feel satisfying. Because you’re not building something. You’re running from something. The Practice:Do one thing slowly today. Just to see if you can. Slow coffee. Watch what arises. Notice the impulse to rush. And then ask: What am I afraid I’ll feel if I slow down? That’s the real work. The Reflection:If I removed all external validation, what would still feel worth doing? The Reframe:You’re not lazy. You’re tired. You’re not undisciplined. You might just be afraid. And that’s ok. I know I was. When you stop pretending fear is purpose, you finally get to choose your life. Not out of tension. But out of truth. Your truth (not someone elses). Slow down and enjoy. At least the next 10 mins. Nic PS. Want to be clear about who you really are? Join the Neuroscience of Change - an online program rewiring what’s really running you. Name your own price (Pay What You Can) to get your hands on this powerful program. |
Nicholas Kusmich
REWired What if everything you knew about self-help and personal development was not only wrong but was the very thing keeping you stuck? REWired reveals the keys at the cross-section of ancient wisdom and modern neuroscience that bring about easy and permanent transformation.
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